Quick storification

I storified some thoughts on the debate Saletan brought on when he suggested women only need to mean it more. Maybe this weekend I'll talk some more about it. I've written on these pages before about two of the offending men (RM and BE) and about how The Gift of Fear reminded me of them both. In neither case was I holding back; in both cases, I made it clear that I meant business and neither wanted to listen. Both saw me as a little sister figure, even as at least one was pursuing a relationship with me (well, both were pursuing a relationship but only one was clearly, openly romantic). I never led them on. Nonetheless, they were shocked when I had to make it clear for the fortieth time that I meant business.